About Me

About Me

Sex Therapist and Speaker

Hi I’m Monica Houttuin

…and it is My Mission to help couples to reconnect, heal quickly and then be able to pursue their life’s dreams together….. even if you are pretty good (and especially when it’s gotten really tough).

Often we don’t actually know that we are doing too little, too late. Sometimes we just don’t know the precise things we need to do, or that are required to maintain and grow the joy, pleasure and connection in our intimate relationship. It’s not your fault.

Every week I see couples who say they wish they had paid more attention to their relationship over the years. When I ask them why they didn’t they said,

“I thought it was a phase”
“we just got busy and before we knew it we had “fallen out of love”
“we are just like roommates now”
“we should have done this years ago”
“we wasted all this time blaming each other”

For the past 25+ years, I have helped couples work to repair, rebuild, and rekindle intimacy then reconnect to live the life of their dreams.

In my work hundreds of couples have successfully proven that these tools are effective to creating a lasting connection. Using proven scientific methods helps take surviving to thriving, to live the relationship you dreamed.

Oh and by the way, I have been married for over 31 years to a wonderful partner and am the proud parent of 2 kids that I am bravely launching into loving relationships and life. Love to help you too!! Won’t you come join me?

My Story

How I became a Couples Therapy, Sex Therapy expert.

OK, so I’m not really called a SexPert (:-)..

… but the hundreds of couples and individuals with sex and intimacy concerns I have helped go from Struggling to Finding ReConnection, Healing and Repair, actually think I am.

Before I dedicated myself to helping people say adios to “Feeling Like Roommates Or Worse”, I was apparently already on My Lifetime Mission because I have always been concerned with Helping People ReConnect. As the child of a urologist, it is just natural for me to have a window into the sexual functioning of individuals. That combined with my training in couple connection ended up being a win win.

Let’s Do the Math…So, the reason I am CALLED an expert is because one fine day, I decided I was going to really figure this whole Couples Therapy, Sex Therapy, Affair Recovery thing out.

For one, I wanted a solution..not a possible solution but a sure-shot, carved-in-stone solution. You know SCIENCE, and so I found it.

I gave it my all (time, money, effort) and I am incredibly honored to have worked with so many fine couples and proud of the results they have managed to create for themselves. That is how I became a Nationally Certified Sex Therapist.

So that’s it, that’s me.

My Approach

Believe in the Pleasure Potential-Grow Expand
Joy and Fun Are Key and Deserved in Couples

Change is possible
Knowing what why and how to change makes all the difference
Use Experience skilled training and kind approach

Use Vast knowledge and possibilities
Unlock potential to a truly intimate relationship
Private issue but you don’t have to struggle in silence

My Training

I am a Couples and Intimacy Specialist and maintain a private practice in Union, Missouri. As a Nationally Certified Sex Therapist I value intimate connections for couples and sexual health education as an important goal for everyone.

I regularly speak to groups about intimacy human sexuality, across the nation including nurses, providers and support groups for patients.

My areas of expertise include couples and intimacy, individual sexuality and all the challenges and areas that include.

25 + years of clinical experience. Licensed in Missouri.

Nationally Certified Sex Therapist.

University of Michigan Sexual Health Cert Program for Sex Therapy and Sex Educators Trained

Post-Graduate Training, University of Michigan in Ann Arbor. Sexual Health Program

Masters from Washington University, St. Louis Missouri

Trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Gottman Method (Attachment Theory), Cognitive Behavioral, and Affair Recovery and Trauma Focused Healing,

Advanced post-graduate training in infidelity and couples therapy.

Continued Training with Esther Perel, John and Julie Gottman, Sue Johnson, David Scharch, Barry Mc Carthy and more.

Couples Institute Developmental Model